Fear of Intimacy and the Tango Cure

I was a man unaware that his ignorance of others and his need for emotional nutrition was seriously affecting his social life, his health and much, much more. I approached intimate situations the way most men do, by keeping people at arm's length, reinforcing my phobias and building walls around me. After my divorce, I discovered the online dating scene. I found it so appalling that I was forced to reconsider who I was and what I really believed in. I looked in the mirror and did not like the man I saw looking back at me so I made a change. I confronted my fears head-on through an education in the art of Argentine Tango dancing. I applied a homeopathic remedy to an age-old problem; I treated a poison with a stronger but diluted poison. I found that the key to being comfortable in the close proximity of another person, a woman, was to learn how to move with her in sync with the music. To do this I needed to realize that a woman was biologically designed to scramble my radar and that that was okay. I learned that, in order for me to be at ease around the opposite sex, I needed to make them feel at ease around me. Eventually I realized this paradigm could be applied to everyone, not just women. My education has been a continuing journey into a fantastic universe, that of another person, that each person saw the world differently and, if I allowed myself to relax and see this truth, my life would be better for doing so. I had much work to do and a lot of walls to tear down but I did it and I am extremely grateful that I did. I believe that once wisdom has been acquired, it is the student's responsibility to share it with the world and so it is that I present my work. I strongly believe that what I have discovered is essential knowledge for men to carry with them as mankind makes its way into the future. As we explore space and the planet becomes more crowded, us men are going to have to find a way to get along with the opposite sex and other men in a way that doesn't result in the sadness, anger and violence to which we are prone. 'Can we all get along' is the problem; tango is the answer and the answer is 'yes' if we try. Tango is an attempt to choreograph a song simultaneously with a partner. The attempt is all that matters, there is no failure if you try. Read my book. I am confident you will learn something and the world will be a better place for you having done so.