"e;The Top 10 Dating Essentials"e; isn't a book about how to manipulate potential partners into dating you, nor is it about social etiquette on a date. It's about knowing what's important to look for in a partner, what makes a relationship work, and what you need to be working on with yourself. After three books on couple s conflict resolution, and following up 2014 s Top 10 Marriage Essentials, Paul Shaffer s Dating Essentials addresses what every dater should know about dating. The ten essentials details: Knowing what healthy actually looks like Moving past your own past Understanding your partner s type Recognizing manipulation Mythologies of dating Knowing what to judge How to handle conflict Knowing healthy boundaries Respecting the time needed for relationship transitions What true intimacy looks like