Not Just a Man's Problem

The deepest, most robust fear I felt growing up as a female in the Christian church was being honest about my deepest struggle-pornography. The idea of opening up about my secret sin was almost unthinkable. I swore to never confess, because I truly thought I was the only one who had ever had this problem and this desire. I hit a breaking point and couldn't hold in my secret any longer. Sharing with another woman was one of the most frightening things I have ever done, but the wave of relief of knowing that I wasn't alone was worth it all. From that point forward, the Lord began to show me, through the power of vulnerability, that I wasn t alone in this battle. A battle I thought only men were supposed to deal with turned out to be a burden that too many of us women were carrying in silence. I began to share my story openly with those around me, and my life was never the same. Hearing other women s stories brought such a profound sense of freedom. I began to think that there must be a way more women could hear each other s real stories. That s when I realized, there is such a great need for resources on this topic. What better way to break down walls than by sharing women s real experiences, accompanied with solid biblical truth?Thus, this book was born. Not Just a Man s Problem contains 11 chapters, seven of which are testimonies from women ages 19-26 centered around their personal struggles with pornography. The other four chapters are topical, research-based chapters, with topics including biblical sexuality, masturbation, parenting, and shame. These chapters work together to reveal the reality that pornography is not just a man s problem.