Are You Guys Brothers?

Same-sex intimacy, particularly between males, can be achallenge to maintain for gay and bisexual men, and extremelythreatening to heterosexual men. Are You Guys Brothers?, aquestion asked of male couples throughout the world, is a very personaland candid look at the topic through the lens of an immensely happy andsuccessful 32-year relationship. Brian McNaught and Ray Struble, bothIrish Catholic, Midwestern children of seven, met in Boston in theirtwenties as one was beginning a career as a "e;gay activist"e; and theother was entering the world of commercial banking. Their love becamethe envy of their families and friends, marked by open communication,good humor, patience, and spirituality. They would need all four tonavigate the mine-filled waters of childhood sexual abuse, alcoholism,intense religious and political opposition, dramatically-disparateincomes, a sexually-open relationship, aging, erectile dysfunction, andan often unsupportive and frequently dysfunctional gay community. Today, they are officially married, and the "e;gay activist"e; is noweducating his spouse's former Wall Street colleagues on gay issues inoffices around the world. This book is funny, deeply moving, and highlyinstructive, of particular interest to gay men and women who seekguidance in building and maintaining their relationships, and toheterosexual men and women worldwide who want to better understand notonly gay people but also how to get past the roadblocks tointimacy in their own relationships.