Things We Live With

A meditation on the burden and joy of inheritance, and the strange power of the objects and keepsakes that connect usThis is how I became interested in things. In their strange pull and power; in the ways they hold on to us and we to them.After her father dies of cancer, Gemma Nisbet is inundated with keepsakes connected to his life by family and friends. As she becomes attuned to the ways certain items can evoke specific memories or moments, she begins to ask questions about the relationships between objects and people. Why is it so difficult to discard some artefacts and not others? Does the power exerted by precious things influence the ways we remember the past and perceive the future? As Nisbet considers her fathers life and begins to connect his experiences of mental illness with her own, she wonders whether hanging on to stuff is ultimately a source of comfort or concern.Intimate and wide-ranging, The Things We Live With is a collection of essays about how we learn to live with the things handed down in families which we carry throughout our lives: not only material objects, but also grief, memory, anxiety and depression. Its about notions of home and restlessness, inheritance and belonging -- and, above all, the ways we tell our stories to ourselves and other people.The Things We Live With is a tender cartography of grief and familial legacy, in which Gemma Nisbet elegantly explores how the maps we make--whether by story, memory, art, or artefact--inevitably fall shy of the territory. -Josephine RoweWhat are we to make of all these things around us? And what are they to make of us? Delicately, as if unpacking a box of fragile treasures, Nisbet cups in her hands and presents us with a series of relationships: with old, loved things, with her family, and her own crushable centre. They are all, it turns out, well kept in the same box. Nisbet wraps her meditations in soft words and firm intelligence, and in this wonderful, digressive and intently considered work she uncovers the tender meaning of possessions, and what it is to be possessed by them too. As a devoted keeper of objects, I read this book with recognition and envy, and anyone who inherits, hoards, abhors or adores the relics of their lives will appreciate Nisbets candour and contemplations. --Kate HoldenWise, profound and with tender humour The Things We Live With expands our thinking about the power of objects to shape our sense of self, anchor our memories, and reflect our place in the world. In these superb, engrossing essays Gemma Nisbet draws us in close as she examines what we hold onto, what we let go, and the complex relationships between the tangible and intangible. A moving portrayal of grief, love, and legacy, this is a collection to treasure. --Vanessa Berry