No Sex

Why sex matters so much in a relationship - and can cause so many problems. From a certain age onwards, sex is a major part of most people's lives. It can give us so much joy - but also seems to cause so much trouble. Why is that? Why can sex seem to have so much power over us and be so important? Perhaps to understand the answer to this, the first thing is to consider why we want to have sex and what benefits it gives us. These are emotional, spiritual, and physical in their nature. There are undoubtedly physical reasons why people want to have sex. After all, it is how we are designed: to ensure the human race continues. So, sex gives us pleasurable physical feelings. Nothing else gives us these same sorts of physical feelings. They are inundating and there to encourage us to want to have sex. There is also an emotional and spiritual drive for and reasons to have sex. One thing is that it releases our happiness hormones, and this increases our bond with someone. Sex boosts intimacy between people - because it is as intimate as it gets. To be naked as we mostly are during sex is a vulnerable act of trust in another person. Sex is a very spiritual act too. It is two people becoming one with each other. It is a way of showing love and affection for another person. It is literally a part of "making love" - as in creating and making love grow. It boosts security in a relationship. It shows a strong commitment to each other. A healthy sex life shows that partners are in tune with each other. It is that their communication is good and/or that compromise, as is needed in many ways in all relationships, is positive. It is also a great way of relieving stress. This is to do with hormones that are released during sex and particularly at climax. But it is also because it is something that stops us from thinking and worrying about anything else. We are, naturally, in the moment. It is an escape.