A frank, practical, and uplifting guide for anyone living in the shadow of a powerful mate. Former NBA wife and marriage and family therapy intern Angela Wilder knows all about living with a powerful mate. Through her own experiences and those of her many clients and even many friends, she has come to recognize the signs of what she calls Powerful Mate Syndrome:- a belief that a partner's work, interests, and personality should come before one's own- a lack of self-worth, identity, and joyful self-expression- a loss of financial and decision-making power- a fear of questioning, challenging, or disagreeing with one's "e;powerful mate"e; for fear of losing what is good (or even not so good) about the relationship In this warm, supportive, and refreshingly tell-it-like-it-is book, Angela Wilder helps readers understand how they got to this destructive power imbalance in their relationship (hint: it's NOT all the other person's fault!), and she charts a simple, step-by-step path to a healthier sense of self, and a more balanced, healthy, and fulfilling relationship. Complete with insightful and revealing quizzes, checklists, and exercises, and generously offering personal and professional anecdotes to help explain Powerful Mate Syndrome ("e;the other PMS"e;), this one-of-a-kind guide will introduce you to your "e;Reality Godmother"e; - and offer hope, and concrete solutions, for anyone who lives in the reflected glory of a powerful mate.